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Oct252010

Never Take Candy From a Stranger: Halloween Madness

There I was this morning, minding my own business, getting ready to drive my kid to her 6:45 am volleyball practice when my daughter popped out from a dark corner and yelled "BOO!" at me.

I just about crapped my pants.

Well, you know, if I were wearing any pants. Which I wasn't.

I screamed and immediately wanted to murder my child. I tend to react that way when the dickens is scared out of me by an annoying human before I've had my morning coffee.

"Guess what Mom!" my kid hopped about, grinning from ear to ear, oblivious to her imminent death.

"What?" I growled, as my heart beat raced out of control.

"It's HALLOWEEN this weekend!"

Lucky me. I will admit it. I don't get Halloween. Sure as a child, I see the allure. Free candy and the chance to run around the neighbourhood scaring old people. But as a grown ass woman, I am not seeing the charm. I don't want to navigate through the throngs of over-excited children and weary parents just to bang on some stranger's door so my kid can have a piece of cheap candy tossed into a pillow case.

I've never been a very good Halloween mom. I dread having to think up costume ideas for my children so I avoid thinking about it and suddenly it's the night before Halloween and I'm standing in a small town drugstore looking for cheap costume ideas and sifting through the rejected remains of  two bit hooker polyester costumes and an assortment trashy looking psycho masks.

Between all the cute little princesses and goblins running amok on the streets, well I kinda want to kick them. And the grown-ups in costume? They annoy me even worse. Bunch of over-achievers. Harumph. Way to make us lazy parents look even douchier than we already feel as we teach our children invaluable pan-handling skills.

Halloween has never played a big part in my family's history, mostly due to Bug. He wasn't able to eat candy and he abhorred being stuffed into any type of costume so after two years of trying with him, I called it quits. We became a none Halloween'ing family and not because we are too Godly for it, but because I was too lazy for it.

I'm screaming behind my mask of smiles. Really.


I bribed my children with bags of purchased candy and we sat in front of the television screen and I forced them to watch scary movies with me. For years, it was perfect. My children still had their sugar rushes and I was able to cuddle my little monsters in the darkened confines of my house.

And then my son died.  And there went my reason for not letting the older children trick or treat. I no longer could use their little brother as an excuse to avoid all the irritating aspects of this obnoxious holiday. I either had to pony up a real reason (sorry kids, I don't want to go out in public because people annoy me) or just admit I am a lazy ass.

So it was back to standing in a drugstore at the last minute trying to convince my son why it was perfectly acceptable for him to wear a cheap Marilyn Monroe wig because that was all that was left on the shelves.

Fric and Frac have gotten a few years of trick or treating in since their little brother died and I'll admit, I had hoped they would come to the dark side with me and come to believe that walking around in the dark, outside in the cold and begging for candy is stupid and silly when they have a mother pleading to throw as much candy as they want at their feet if only they would agree to stay home.

My children, the willful little buggers they are, refuse to see the light. They simply refuse to be brain washed into my way of thinking. No, instead they mock me for my common sense and then request garishly complicated hand-stitched costumes because they like to poke their mother bear with a large pointy stick.

I had hoped with the addition of Jumby in our family, I'd be able to once again use the 'disabled, tube-fed, non-mobile child' as a reason to once again banish the festivities from our house (I can feel your judgement just typing out this sentence but I refuse to bow down to peer pressure) but not only have my children grown taller but they have apparently gotten smarter over the years as well.

They are devious.

"But Moooom! Jumby loves to be around other people! He'll have so much fun! And it'll be great for the community to see him out and about!"

"But Mooom! You don't want to deprive Jumby of a quintessential childhood activity! He's been through so much already! He deserves this!"

"But Mooom! We can take our little cousin too because he is finally old enough to go trick or treating!"

They look at me with their hound dog eyes and bat their big baby blues at me and suddenly I'm wondering what I did to deserve such Halloween lovers for children. So I'm back to arguing with my children about whether or not we are heading into town to knock on a bunch of doors so that they can stuff themselves silly with candy given to them by strangers.


I think Fric and Frac are too old at 14 and 13 years, respectively. But when I asked Twitter a few weeks ago, the response was split. Some people think they'll be all right as long as they are in costume and have Jumby and my four year old nephew, the Worm, with them and others are curmudgeonly and grinchy like myself and say, no way, they are too old.

For the record, I really love the curmudgeons. They warm the cockles of my blackened Halloween-hating heart.

So what I want to know, is what do you think? How old were you when you last went trick or treating? How old is too old? I'm going with public opinion on this one because my husband refuses to chime in. ("Whatever you decide is fine, honey." Wishywashy weenie.)

Also, am I the only Halloween-hating human on this planet? Can I really be the only person around who thinks decorating your house for a three hour event once a year is not only a waste of money but insanely tacky as well?

And lastly, someone please explain how I morphed into a geriatric old man hiding in his basement with his house lights all off, while muttering under his breath about crazy young whippersnappers. I became my damn father. And sadly, I have the chin whiskers to prove it.
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Reader Comments (113)

I HATE HATE HATE halloween. My kids are 3 and 5 and I've already got the 5 year old hating it too. Now if that damn social outgoing 3 year old would just fall in line.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjen

I last went trick or treating at 12. I was 5' 6" and got mistaken for the mom in my group of (older than me!) friends. They all laughed at me, but were the first ones to ask me to buy off-sales before we were legal. Monster is five and already over 4 ft tall so his trick or treating career will short lived as well.

I don't much like Halloween either, but the boys do. This is the year we are actually taking the kids to houses without pre-approved treats and it scares the crap out of me. If Oodles eats dairy we're sunk, he will be sick for days. That includes chocolate and most chips. I will take them out Sunday night with a big fat smile on my face, all the while dreading the sleepless night ahead of me.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDara lee

I'm only 27 but it surprises me considering how fast Kids seem to want to grow up these days that 13 and 14 year olds would even be in to it at all.

In my opinion if you put in the effort (costume wise) and your not out being a dick to the kids then you can be whatever age. If a group of 40 year olds showed up at my door sporting awesome costumes and appear to be having fun then that's great. But if a group of 17 year old show up dressed in street cloths pretending to be "rappers" then they can get bent.

Me and my friends went like 3 or 4 years ago on ourid twenties and took it to another level.
http://loadingreadyrun.com/videos/view/57/Christmas-Carolling-on-Halloween

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJames

Look let them have another year.life is so short and they will be all grown up soon enough.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAmy

I grew up in Australia and Halloween was nothing like it is here in Canada. I vividly remember going "trick or treating" to peoples houses at the age of about 6... and then having to explain what it was and why I should get candy. Most of the time I ended up with money, which was fine with me.
It wasn't til I moved to Canada at the age of 21 that I actually experienced my first real Halloween! Whilst I didn't go trick-or-treating, you can bet your ass if I had have been able to wrangle someones child and go door to door, I sure would have!
In the two years since then, I have enjoyed seeing everyone of all ages come to my door for candy, dressed in their costumes. I firmly believe that a teenager can trick or treat, provided there are guidelines:
1) Dress up. Don't wear jeans and a t-shirt and tell me you are Justin Bieber. If you want candy, you have to make an effort (you cheapskate!)
2) Just know that younger kids will get more attention and candy than you. Don't look at me sadly, waiting for more, because I gave the 3 year old dressed as a kitten more praise!
3) Don't, and I mean this, don't run past all the little children who are having fun and try and beat them to the good candy. It pisses me off. Especially if you run past them in my front yard.

I think Fric and Frac, especially if they take Jumby and their 4 year old nephew (or was it niece? Damn goldfish memory) have every right to go trick-or-treating... just have fun!

(And Tanis, after 3 years of giving out candy and having fun, dressed as all kinds of things, I am done. This year I will be in my basement with the lights off, ignoring the front door. If there was a grinch for halloween, I would be it this year.)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKara

Sorry, I have to be one of the ones you hate. I didn't used to be such a fan of Halloween, but when my son was born ON Halloween all that changed. NOw it's a big deal in our house.

I didn't even realize it was Halloween when I was in the hospital. It was a tough labor and they finally decided on an emergency c-section and I had to ask why Raggedy Ann was messing with my IV.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterStacey

I'm not a mom of human children yet so I don't know how much my vote actually counts but I'm not a fan of Halloween either. I am also a bit anti-social though, so yeah. There is nothing worse than a band of teenage hooligans coming to your door expecting candy. (Especially when you were the one stuck answering the door and they were older than you!) I remember when I was 10 (possibly 11) and my grandma was watching me Halloween night I told her I wanted to go trick or treating and she said I was too old and that she wouldn't take me. That was the end of it.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJayme

Quintessential? I'm impressed. And easily distracted. I LOVE Halloween. I dressed up, full on, to the nines to go trick or treating until I was out of HS. Then I just found parties to go to instead.
And now I'm a 40 year old with a 3 year old and that's an excuse to go door-to-door again!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNeeroc

I *hate* Halloween. My mother had decreed that I would cease and desist trick or treating at the age of 12. Lo and behold, I ended up SICK and couldn't go out that year. No do-overs for me left me feeling completely ripped off (hence my Halloween hatred).

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChibi Jeebs

Halloween, where i live we are doing Halloween on the 30th. Small southern towns do it that way because EVERYONE goes to churh on Sunday! (yeah right) but anyhow. I think that as long as my 12 year old son acts right and puts the effort in , then he may trick or treat.. However if he wants to be Scream again this year ( he has been the same thing for 4 years ) then his Halloween days are over! As for being a parent and dressing up, this will be my first year. mainly because of my 4 year old twin girls.. they think its neat! So off we will trot to get candy from strangers. Although I do have to say i cant wait for the day when my children are grown and i can just scare other peoples kids when they come to my house for candy! Now that Will be FUN!!!!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterShaloy

oh my. normally i'm standing behind you every step of the way, but woman - you lost me here. NOT LOVING HALLOWEEN?!?! i simply cannot compute that. dressing up, FREE CANDY, showing off the adorable kidlets? goblins and ghosts and candy corn and pumpkins?! i have my halloween decorations up all year. LOL. my 2 cents - let them go. let them decide if they love it still. (team halloween!)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermana

I hate hate hate hate.
Cause people with masks can not
be trusted!
Did I mention I hate Halloween?

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterkay lee Kelly

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Here's my 2 cents, since you asked for it... I do like Halloween, but do not decorate my house like I used to when my kids were younger. (my boy is 16 and girl is 13) I put out a few "fall" decorations and call it good. Last year was the 1st year we hid in out basement with the lights out. We live on the highway so not many people stop to let their kids off on our street of 3 houses in a row. So we were stuck with a shit load of candy.
As for letting the teens go out trick or treating... I say yes, as long as they are respectful of the tiny kids. My 16 yr old hasn't wanted to for the last 4 yrs, but my daughter who's 13 loves running around with her friends and just having fun, maybe going to a few random doors for treats to eat throughout the evening. We live in a very small town so I feel it's safe to let them go in groups.
The key here is teach your children to respect the holiday as it was intended: for the small children with parents, to go door to door begging erm.. I mean trick or treating. I just hope my kid is following my rules when out of my sight.
Good luck, let your kids have fun!! You are a great mom and I agree with most of your parenting choices, and I know your children would be respectful so don't think I was pointing any fingers... Happy Halloween!! BOO!

Brandi N.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBrandi N.

I spent 4 of my tween years with monster braces and thus couldn't eat my candy (my little brother made out like a bandit!). So, once the metal was off, I trick or treated with my best friend until I was 16 and she was 15, and we got away with it because we took our little brothers around. Of course, growing up down South, it's still nice and warm on Halloween. In my little town now, we go around the neighborhoods on golf carts! Sorry Tanis, no curmudgeon here...plus, my kid with autism seems to like Halloween as long as I don't make him wear a heavy costume or mask.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMelanie Harper

My last year was age 11, and I've wished for years that I hung in there longer. At 4'11" (and 36 years!) I still sometimes think about sneaking out in a costume with a mask.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKaren

I am not a lover of Halloween either. My children are, though, and I think that their childhoods are short enough, so I dutifully take them. Every.Single.Year.

In the last few years, my best friend and I have worked out a system. We drive the 20 minutes to her house, and take both of our kids, her niece and nephew, another friend's kids and sometimes a couple of our kids' friends. My neighborhood basically refuses to admit that there is a holiday, and her neighborhood is lit up like...Well, Halloween.

I highly recommend this "group haunting" method, as you will inevitably end up with a mixed group of kids (meaning that the littles will be ready to call it a night in somewhat short order, thereby cutting the required time out to a minimum. Hooray.)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLori

hate dressing up. not into costumes. my kids (3 and 6) are tho. damn. we have a deal on halloween tho: husband takes the kids trick or treating while mommy stays home and drinks. i also hate answering the door.....

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterdale

I am not a fan of adults dressed in costumes....because it FREAKS ME OUT! I hate that they are sitting behind the mask and/or makeup KNOWING who I am...but I don't know who they are.

Little ones dressing up..that's fine. But, I really don't get excited about the holiday.

I tried to when I was little...but, my mom, like you, was not a planner. And, we had very little money to spend on costumes. So, our costumes came from my mom and dad's closet... This was back in the 80's...so we would wear my mom's blazer, her knee boots, and call ourselves a "jockey". We would wear my dad's clothes, put pillows in our shirts, and call ourselves "an old man". We wore pj's and carried a teddy bear and called ourlselves "a sleepy baby".

Looking back, it was silly. But, it was cheap and we were satisfied!

As an adult, I will go and help my nieces carve the pumpkin...but I am lured with pizza and beer.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJP in IL

I'm 24 and I still go trick or treating... I have a son and a whole butt load of little cousin's nieces and nephews that I take out so I have an excuse. I love love love halloween :)

I vote you let them go as long as they are respectful to the little ones and they enjoy it

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLaura

I am 5'10" and have been since I was about 14. Tall kids have a harder time trick or treating. My last year was age 12 and I was already so tall that I know people were judging me!

I totally went trick or treating when I was 15. I kidnapped some friends younger kids and dragged along my buddies and we totally managed to get candy (because isn't it nice that the teenagers are being so helpful taking the smaller children out. Awww)

After that I just bought my own candy and went to parties.

Now that I have kiddos of my own, we once again go out. I'm one of those people you hate because I dress up. Of course I've worn the same costume for the past three years running (its what happens when you are lazy/pregnant) but there we go. My kids love it when we go out and since they are still itty bitty, I can get away with giving them a fraction of the candy collected and stealing the rest.

I'm also one of the freaks that carves umpteen pumpkins and puts obscene amounts of decorations up on the house. I like to think I'm festive instead of insane.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMeaghan

Around here the law says 12 is the age limit. Once you are over 12 you aren't supposed to go trick or treating anymore. My 3 year old will be out trick or treating it up with his dad while his 7 month old brother and I hand out candy. If older kids come by I still give them candy but not as much as the littler kids. Call me unfair but that's how I roll.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChristina

For the record, I'm a HUGE fan of Halloween. And here's my theory...

As long as you're dressed up in costume and not rude, you're welcome into our haunted house (although this year we're not doing it due to the divorce) and I'll give you candy. Gladly.

And yes, the littles get to go first, get the most, etc. They're the cutest. It's the natural order of things.

BUT... there are kids here who make no effort, act stupid, and expect candy. not happening. Some people won't give out candy to anyone past 10. But know that there is a kid in the neighborhood who LOVES to trick or treat. He's about 18 years old now, about 6'2", and is autistic. And he is always so grateful, says thank you, and wishes us a Happy Halloween and talks about how scary and fun our yard is.

And that's the reason I still do it all. Even though we're not doing the haunted house in the driveway this year, we're still haunting the porch and the front yard. Even if for only that one kid.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKris

I hate it. My girls are 14 and 16 now and still go. Way too old, but I don't have time to argue with them. But I don't go 'cause I have two non-mobile, non-able-to-chew-candy children here. And, ummmm, I didn't shower that night aaaaand I don't have any money for gas?? Yeah that's it.

Oh and adults that dress up? Really? I go to the grocery store regularly as Puke Shoulder or Drool Shoulder according to the time of day. It's terribly scary.

Oh, oh and do your kids really use words like "quintessential"?

Smiles,
Lisa

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLisa T.

Alright. With a 5 and 6 year old, I have to do Halloween. Personally, I think it should be done in September when it's not cold and rainy. It's a requirement in Wisconsin that the costume accommodate a parka if necessary (so Lord only knows what you must count for way up yonder) That said, we do it every year since they were babies.

I think my last year was around 13 or 14 that I actually dressed up and asked for candy. My sisters were a lot younger than me, so I would still take them, but just as the "adult".

Meh, it won't hurt to let them do it. And Jumby will have a lot of fun.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKristen

Last year I used the whole "sorry kids the twins can not go out amoungst the germs from hell" it worked and I pointed out to them that I went out pregnant with morning sickness the previous year they bought it, this year were going out ugh. Oh well it's free candy! And I don't decorate the house no one comes into my complex because it is set back off the road and I am out anyways!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChristina

I stopped trick-or-treating at 12, because I started to feel like (more) of a dork running around the neighborhood in some costume. After that Halloween had no appeal for me until college.

My undergrad years were spent at the University of Wisconsin - Madison, home to the State Street Halloween Party. Crowds of 100,000 or more descend upon downtown Madison to barhop up and down State Street in costumes that are either incredibly clever or excessively revealing. So, for 4 years Halloween was again a big deal.

Now that I have kids, one of whom can begin trick-or-treating, Halloween is starting to become a big deal again.

Long story short, I think kids in their early teens can still get away with trick-or-treating as long as they're still in the spirit of things. But once they're in high school, it's kind of pathetic. After that it's time for more age-appropriate activities (watching horror movies at home, going to age-appropriate parties, etc.)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAngela@beggingtheanswer

I think they're definitely not too old, especially with younger siblings. I think my last year was when I was 15 or 16. I remember the door opened to one of the houses, and a college boy answered. He was cute, and the warm air drifting out of the house smelled good. At that moment, I realized that would be my last year trick or treating.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRachael

I don't remember when I last trick or treated. My youngest daughter is 8, and i've taken her to a couple houses trick or treating but she would rather be at our churches harvest party with the games for candy and bounce houses. I don't normally dress up but I dressed up as a man a couple years ago and this year I am going to go as a present. I had my oldest daughter do that one year when she was little.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLeah

I've never gotten into the Halloween spirit, even as a kid. My folks were lazy too so they'd usually send me out with my younger siblings & then there'd always be these high school hoodlums messing with kids so we'd book it back to the house after only going around the block.

My last year was when I was 12 & this older woman gave me a horrible lecture about how I was too old to be trick or treating, even though I had my younger siblings with me. It's never been a big thing in my family.

My kiddos are at the age where if they wanna go, that's fine. They can make their own costumes from what we have at home (they're not suffering; we make costumes at home all the time just for fun)& I'll let them go out with their friends as long as they stay around the neighborhood & have their cells on.

Hubby & I will be home, eating the candy I bought at Walmart with the lights off so that we don't have to share because we're mean like that.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCori

For kids great if they enjoy it.

Fric and Frac with smaller kids OK.

Big kids in costume all alone irritates me no end.
But we turn off lights and hide. Except for the cute next door twins ( 2 yo) who we spoil.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCharles

Unfortunately my last trick or treat was at 10 years old... I ended it after everyone took me for a 16 year old. (I grew tall super quick. And then stopped by freshman year of high school. I am now a 5'11" woman. That year I called it quits I got literally 10 pieces of candy while my little (super short) sister made out like a bandit. I LOVE Halloween and since my girls are already shaping to be tall I am going to make the most of it for them. As for your kids? Let them go. This year may be the last year your 14 year old wants you walking with them. She'll be a full-fledged teen before you know it. And then she'll be out of the house. And you'll never get that chance again. So enjoy it while it lasts chick. Life's too short to be a humbug.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJessica

If they are in costume, and taking small children, it's totally okay.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterthepsychobabble

I did the whole Halloween thing when our girls were growing up but, now that they're grown, I can't muster any interest. Our youngest finally stopped trick-or-treating at 16 years of age...she's our short daughter so no one really noticed! LOL However, I will say that I don't care how old a child is, if he/she comes to our door, he/she WiLL get candy!!!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterPam

Tanis,

Take them all trick-or-treating! I do not don't decorate, nor do I have trick-or-treaters, ( live in the country), but my now 16 year old & I go to a friend's house & enjoy all of the kids, teenagers & parents. It is a riot. To see all of the children that I helped raise, ( daycare director)in this small town enjoying Halloween & not getting into any type of mischief is worth the effort of making chili, hot dogs, etc.I hope to meet you someday!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterdeb young

I hate trick or treating. I hate Halloween. There. I said it. It's just not something I embrace. Never really did, once I got too old to scam candy off people. I go because my kids love it (sorry, not trying to guilt you there).

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterEllieranc

I was 11, and in my home-made (by me) Groucho Marx outfit. I barely got halfway down the block before I sadly went back home - I just felt too old to be trick or treating.

My kids, now - last year the 13 and 16 yr-olds dressed up, but mostly hung with friends. Some candy was acquired. My 18-yr-old, SillyAutismBoy, who in prior years had insisted on new costumes (Jack Sparrow, Beetlejuice, etc.)just threw on an Elton Johnish pair of glasses, a funny hat, and went off to get loot. This year, FINALLY, he realizes he is too old to T or T!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJFS in IL

It's too late for this year, but maybe consider a Fall Festival at your place next year. When mine were little, the costumes were just starting to get gorey and I hated that. It's just too scary for the wee ones, in my opinion. I also had (and still don't have) no idea how to check the candy to be sure it's safe. That's when we started partying at home. Burgers and dogs over an open fire, the kids dress up, each guest brings a bag of candy that sometime during the evening I will divide amongst them (they bring a container to take home candy), and they all have a good time. Once I realized the attraction was about candy first and dressing up second, the decision was easy.

We didn't have many guests until the kids hit middle school. Then all the kids who were almost too old to go came to us instead. They still got to do what they wanted, still had oodles of loot to take to school the next day, and yhey didn't have to feel embarrassed about trick or treating.

Every year I think "This will be the last year. Surely next year they won't want to do it." Riiigggghhht. My youngest is 20 and my oldest is 24. They're dragging their college friends home (2 hours away), still bobbing for apples and playing hide and seek. The only difference is now they talk about jobs and college classes instead of the latest gossip.

It's more work for you so tell them they have to make their own costumes. This year my son bought a red ballcap and a red vest from the thrift store. He put a white collar on the vest and a white patch on the hat (using fusible web). Ta da! That one kid- from Pokemon- whatever his name is- was born.

At least with them at your place, you know they're safe. You don't have to pretend to know how to check candy, you get to know their friends and aquaintances better, and if it's too cold you can stand by the fire or go inside and play video games. Karaoke optional.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa

There's Halloween in Canada?

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermuskrat

I'm a bit of a Bah Humbug as well...but my boys (ages 12 & 13) are better off trick or treating (IN COSTUME OF COURSE) in a group of friends outside my house rather than asking me to host some teen party that serves candy to the hormonal (and my son would ask) and have them running around my home. Good Luck!

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie I

I was in the seventh grade, my last year out...I think that would be 12? I will admit that I get a little testy when older kids come knocking for Halloween, UNLESS they're in a really good costume. Kids that couldn't be bothered to do more than throw on a mask irk me...if they put some effort in, I'm okay with it.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCorrie

I posted a few weeks ago about how I hate Halloween and now that I have a toddler everyone expects us to go trick or treating. Especially my mother. So to humiliate her and convince her that staying home with the porch light off was really a wiser choice, my daughter will not be a ladybug, a bee, a princess, a kitty or any of the other suggestions. She will be a sea otter. I love being a curmudgeon.

Oh, you asked a question. I think since they are in costume and since they have younger children in tow, it will be okay.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMommieV

I don't remember how old I was my last time trick-or-treating for myself. As an adult, I loved having all the kids coming to our house. Then we moved into this one. Decorated, stocked up on evil sugar...not one person showed up, except for the infidels who came in the middle of the night and stole the decorations.

I've hated Halloween ever since.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDe Lyn

Not a fan of Halloween, but endure it for the kids. Hate the whole costume thing, mainly b/c I'm not at all creative, so we end up spending too much money on store bought costumes. I do like the candy, though :) "here, let Mommy and Daddy sort it, and we'll put it all back in your bucket after you go to bed..." yeah, right, LOL
As for the age I last went trick or treating, I was 12, and it was bordering on being too old - at least that's how it felt. But, if your kids can get away with it, and want to do it, I don't see the harm, especially if they're in a group with the younger kids.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKim

I made my daughter stop at 15. NOW, had she actually volunteered to take her younger siblings trick or treating and IN costume, I'd have no problems with her accepting candy from strangers.

But I know I frown upon teenagers stalking up to my door acting too cool for themselves and the "trick or treat...is that all you got?"

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKristin

I stopped trick or treating in 9th grade I think. I wasn't really into the last few years, but instead of having a party my friends wanted to go get candy. Then I was on Halloween hiatus for many, many years. Until last year. When I realized I could be someone totally different and go bar hopping for a night. Then Halloween became awesome again. :-)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDinwizzle

My vote: as long as they're wearing costumes & aren't trampling smaller children in their quest for a half-melted dollar-store "chocolate" bar, then I say let them go. You're only young once.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTina

I still went when I was in college. Don't use me as an example.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterWinn

I last went trick-or-treating when I was 13 and I think that's normally when kids stop thinking that it's "cool" and are more likely to go to a Halloween party at a friends house.

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSheena

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