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Electric Moment

When I was eighteen years old I went to a book signing with my close friend Sam. We stood in line for what seemed like forever to have Anne Rice scribble on our tattered soft cover books and we squealed like stereotypical school girls after Ms. Rice displayed a modicum of interest in the two of us asking about our lives and inquiring about our dreams for the future.

After that brief moment of time when the air crackled with excitement for Sam and myself, the two of us walked out of the trendy small book store, arm and arm and wandered into a nearby coffee shop so we could dissect our experience and relive each moment over and over again through our conversation.

Samantha, very much a poet, looked straight into my eyes and told me, "That was an electric moment in my life. A slice of life so vivid and outstanding I will cherish it until the day I die."

Her words echoed in my head and long after Samantha died and Anne Rice stopped writing about vampires, the phrase 'electric moment' lives on.

Wednesday morning, I relived that bookstore signing over and over in my head. I thought about all the electric moments I have had in my life and wondered, no, worried, that meeting my new son wouldn't be one of them.

What if he didn't like us? What if we didn't like him? What if he smelled?

I was bouncing around with nervous energy, trapped in a small vehicle hurling down a high way, annoying my darling husband with every worried glance I shot at him. The two hour car trip to meet our son seemed to take forever.

Even live tweeting didn't make the time go any faster.

Who may have forgotten to fill up her gas tank so that her husband is very annoyed with her? Oh ya. Me.

(It was an honest oversight. I swear I just forgot and didn't drive past the gas station the night before thinking I was too tired to bother and my husband could do it the next day. Really. Scouts honour.)

Who is fighting with her husband over what type of music to listen to? Oh ya, Me. I want Bach he wants something annoying.

(How can a man listen to brash rock and roll when his life is on the brink of a reality-changing precipice? Seriously dude. I don't get you.)

Have found a way to distract my grumpy nervous husband. I have him counting cows. If he finds 200 he gets a treat.

(Funny, Boo was unamused by this offer and my tweet. Hmmm.)

My husband is now telling me I am not allowed to listen to Dr. Horrible's Singalong blog. Fucking fuddy duddy.

(I'm about to be a new mommy. There should be a law stating it's mandatory to sing with Captain Hammer.)

Who should not be allowed to twitter while bouncing around in a small vehicle? Hubs is ready to kill me.

(It was getting hard to twitter with his fingers wrapped around my neck. Road trips with me are FUN. I swear.)

Minutes away from meeting my kid for the first time. Nervous? Check. Excited? Check. Fucking lost in weird city? Check.

(I don't care what you say dear hubs. If you don't know where you are or how to get where you need to be you are lost. Not directionally challenged. Full fledged LOST.)

Ever hear the saying "Don't poke the bear?" My husband is the bear and I am the sharp pointy stick. It's getting ugly over here.

(When one is ten minutes late to meet one's new son and emotionally charged, one should not politely insist freak out demanding one pull over to ask for directions. Unless one would like one's head bitten off by an annoyed spouse. Just so y'all know.)

Thankfully Boo and I finally got to be where we were suppose to be.

There are no adequate words to explain how one feels knowing her son is just on the other side of the door.

I can't even begin to explain how my heart burst into a million tiny pieces when my son was wheeled out to greet his father and I, smiling from ear to ear and asking for his first high-five.

Or how the ocean of grief I have been treading time in for the past three years suddenly parted like the Red Sea when my new son laughed so hard with me he all but wiggled out of his wheel chair and peed through his pants.

That morning was filled with one electric moment after another.

There will always be a cloud in my skies, a scar on my heart and a tear on my cheek for the little boy I loved and lost. But life hasn't seemed this vibrant for all of us in a very long time.

I've never been more delighted to squint at the blinding brightness of happiness.

Thanks for sharing this long road with my family and myself. If you hadn't been here to hold my hand along the way I can't guarantee I'd be wearing this silly mommy grin and wondering if it's wrong to use my son as a lint collector as he crawls on the floor.

It's with great pleasure I introduce you to my son. (Feel free to leave a blog pseudonym suggestion in the comment box. I'm stumped.)

One of our very first cuddles. He is fascinated with the size of my nose. Apparently, it's highly honkable.

My boy has tight fists. He's going to be a great boxer.

I could pose for pictures with him all day long. My son, however, has other ideas and is bored of this game.

Getting ready for his first sleep in his brand new forever bed. The puppy was eager to join him.

And finally, I'd like to thank Kristen, Catherine and Katie for throwing together a Redneck Shower for the kid and I. There are no adequate words to express our gratitude and affection for all of you.

Plus, I'm dying laughing at the prizes available and I can't wait to read how I'm not the only redneck mommy in the world. I can't be the only gal who has accidentally spray painted her son's penis with bright red paint. Can I?

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Reader Comments (218)

I didn't even bother reading the post. I just saw your son and your smile, and that was enough.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterNeil

How wonderful for you!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commentertenakim

I can feel your bliss through the interweb, SO VERY HAPPY for the whole redneck clan.
He is adorable!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterjenni williams

I couldn't be happier for you T. Loves.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterWill

You are always allowed to listen to Dr. Horrible.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterBackpacking Dad

my heart is just bursting with joy for you!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterfidget

Oh, Congratulations!!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterlollagalooza

You're the one who should have 18 kids, Tanis. We're all very proud of you, and feel like we share just a little bit in your joy.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterDick Carlson

I am crying such happy tears for you! A very big congrats on your electric moment - you deserved it.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterSara-Jayne

This is so awesome. Congratulations!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJanna

I read every word and now I'm crying. I'll bet you make a lot of people cry with this post -- tears of joy. This is awesome. Congratulations Redneck Mommy!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCarole Hicks

Very, very happy for you...*sniff*...ok, gotta go before I get all sappy and start bawling.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermr. big dubya

I didn't read either - just scrolled ahead to the photos. He is such a lucky boy!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCT Mom

So, so happy for you. Your smile really does say it all. :-)

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMaura/MoBu67

Your post is wonderful. I can feel your joy. Congratulations - this electric moment will stay with you always.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterExtraordinaryMommy

I am just so happy for you guys.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKat

So happy for you!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterTwenty Four At Heart

Dave was peppering me with questions last night about you and your new'un, and as I was talking about it I had to fight not to cry.

I'm over the moon for you and your family.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermamatulip

How exciting. I wish you all the best in your journey with your son.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenteranita ovolina

Thank you for sharing your journey and joy.


: )

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCopeland

I'm so happy for you guys! Congratulations!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAmanda

Since you have to black out his eyes, how about Zorro?

So happy for you Tanis! Can't wait to hear about the rest of the adventure.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJill

OK, so you have Fric and Frac, what about Fronc?

Enjoy your precious new son, I'm sooo happy for you!!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJean

Congratulations! I've been following your story and couldn't be more happy for your family!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterdee

So, so happy for you!

And I also had it bad for Anne Rice when I was 18 or so. Oh, how I loved those books. :)

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAmber

congrats to you and your fam! i love all of your forever phrases...i may or may not need to steal them and use them outside of the internet! i wish you forever happiness! it has begun... haha

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJenatTheCuteKid

I'm so, so excited for all of you! You deserve this happiness and I can't wait to hear all about your new son!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterTUWABVB

Do you know how cool it is every time I read 'my son' coming from around here? Pretty damn cool. He's fantastic, and I'm beyond thrilled for your entire family!

Dammit, woman, I love you. I love him. I love you all. I am so happy, there aren't words.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMr Lady

He is entirely kissable :) I am so happy for you! Congratulations :)

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAriel

I am just so happy for you. Congratulations!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie

My heart is filled with aww right now. Welcome to your new forever family, little Redneck. Beautiful pictures.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKendall

Delurking to say CONGRATULATIONS!! I have only been reading for several months but long enough to know that this electric moment is well-deserved and remarkable!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterHeather

Congratulations!! I'm grinning ear to ear at my desk. (Ohgodthisis-so-cheesy) but you're an incredible inspiration.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKitchen Vixen

I'm really, truly happy for you and your family.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterjess

No one deserves these moments more than you do, Tanis. I am so so happy for you!!!!!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer McKenzie

I admit it. I scanned quickly through the words just to get through the photos. Will go back later to read. Maybe next time don't tweet that you're putting photos with your newest post. Or just post pics.
I am so very happy for all of you!!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKei

Congratulations!!! I look forward to many more beautiful post about your little man.

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLisa

Tanis!! Yay!
Those are fabulous pictures and he's definitely got the spirit and heart of a fighter, that much we already know.

You are so blessed and are doing so much to bless others. I have tears in my eyes and the biggest damn grin on my face!

Congratulations and welcome home to your SON!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterrachel-asouthernfairytale

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterKendra

Congratulations!!! Best wishes and many blessings to the Redneck Family!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermumma boo

Yippee!! What a blessing.... He is lucky to have a family with such a big heart!! Congratulations to you all!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCathy-wheresmydamnanswer

I am de-lurking to say Congratulations!!

I second "Zorro".

And it is completely OK to use your son as a lint collector on the floor. Terrycloth outfits work best!! ;)

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJoy

Any suggestions that go with the Fric and Frac theme is going to come out highly inappropriate.

so I consulted the Urban Dictionary and found FRIB, defined as "A word that can be used to describe happiness, joy etc. Commonly replaces 'wow', 'cool' or 'great'"

I vote Frib

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAnissa@hope4peyton

Congrats on your new son! He looks adorable!!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterD's Mommy

Congrats doesn't even begin to cover it!! :)

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterHappyCampers

Congrats to you and your new addition. How amazing it is that he finally has you all, and you all finally have him. Just awesome!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterHumincat

Along with lots of other people, I have been reading your blog for quite a while. I am so thrilled that you finally have your sweet boy. And can't wait to get lots of updates!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. Who

Oh, I am so happy for you and the whole family!! Congratulations!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJP

Your SON is absolutely completely adorable!! I am so very happy for you and the whole Redneck clan!

Anissa's suggestion of frib would continue the "f" tradition. If you are looking for something "electrical" how about Thor? God of Thunder. And we know where thunder comes from. Just a thought.

No matter what you call him, all your blog faithful are just happy you have your much longed for Son!

February 13, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCilia

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