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Group Hug, People. My Therapist Says it Helps

When I started this blogging business, I simply expected to whittle away my hours and pass my days in a computer-humming haze. I was game for almost anything to make the hours tick by faster and I was grateful for any minute I did not have to spend dwelling on my shattered life and my throbbing heart.

Little did I know that this blogging business was addictive and time consuming. My husband calls it my computer crack. He may have a point.

But beyond the self-obsessed, egotistical and sometimes conceited aspect of blogging, surfing the blogosphere gave me something more than just the ability to self-actualize and poke fun at myself. It helped me reach out and communicate with other real, live people.

It helped me heal. It helped remind me I wasn't alone. There were people whose lives were just as screwed up as my own. Children who couldn't remember to flush the toilet and husbands who didn't know the sock fairy didn't exist and that those socks didn't actually walk themselves into the hamper.

Blogging gave me a means to be normal again.

And yes, I use that term loosely.

For that, my family and my therapist are enormously grateful. And so am I.

So when the incomparable (albeit, slightly hairy) Mrs. Chicky asks for a bloggy love in, I jumped all over it, like my two kids on a trampoline.

But sitting here, I am in a quandary. Do I blog about my sweet Australian doctor friend Jelly, who never fails to cheer me up with her kind words and incomparable mother?

Or do I post about the hysterically funny Kristen who not only made me clutch my sides from laughter, but was also one of the first to figure out that my now defunct blog and this blog belonged to one mommy?

But then I thought of composing an entire post about J and KimmyK and how, if the three of us ever got together, you just know that one of us would end up in the clink for drunk and disorderly, while the other two took pics to post on their blog.

Of course, there is always my love of a bald baby and her ability to rock the hat, so I began composing an ode to the inimitable Wonderbaby.

But I found I could not do justice to her bald head. And her mother knows too many big words for any of my ditties to be worthy of the Wonderbaby, so I scrapped that idea.

In the end, like a two-year old who hasn't had lunch and missed her morning nap, I was overwhelmed and daunted by my choices. My bloglines rocks. I just simply couldn't choose from all the bloggity goodness that I have collected there.

Just know that I read you, I love you and I need you.

Yes, I'm that annoying, clingy, little girl, who just wants to be part of the crowd and will sell her soul to do it.

I'll even do your homework for you, and give you my allowance.

I'm just so grateful you shone your beacon of hope for me, and then plucked me from my fog of grief.

Thank you.
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Reader Comments (20)

That cartoon is hysterical and this post is so... I don't know what word to use: sweet? nice? heartwarming? profound, maybe?

I just know that I am glad I clicked on whoever-it-was's sidebar to check out what kind of blog "Redneck Mommy" might be. For the millisecond it took to load, I had some vague preconception of what it might be like and I was tickled with the humor I found there and then saddened when I read more and found "Missing My Bug."

You combine the absurdities of daily life with children and a part-time absentee spouse with the bittersweet poignancy of grief and loss. You always amaze me, T.

Oh, I guess I just hijacked your bloggy love post, didn't I? Well, I know I'm not alone in loving the Redneck Mommy!

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMary-LUE

I want to feel all gushy about this love post but, dude, you called me hairy. In your post. It's one thing to call myself hairy but really... The nerve of some people. People who can't even housetrain their own dog. Wow. That hurts.

You're lucky I love you because otherwise I'd have no choice but to sic my dogs on you.

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. Chicky

That cartoon is probably close to how we all feel about this blogging stuff. But gee, isn't it amazing? Perhaps civility will come back to the world thanks to bloggers like you and the many you patted on the back.mbe

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered Commentertoyfoto

Awww ... and you're loved right back!
Times a gazillion.
Now where's my camera ...
(that cracked me up by the way and is most likely too true!)

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJ.

It just goes to show you. Put out the worm and the fish will bite. We all love you, otherwise why are we here?

I love you in the morning. I love you all the day. I love you in the middle of the night when I should be in bed and not at play (on the computer). I love you when I'm happy. I love you when I'm sad. I love you when I want a laugh. I love you when I'm glad. But, most of all, I love you because you are real, a beautiful, genuine person who's not afraid to tell it like it is.

You've made me cry at times, you've made me laugh. Finally, we've looked through your eyes, have seen the light, and come back for more every chance we can.

That's why I'm here.

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMotherkitty

I would so take pictures of your ass in the clink. But, don't worry...I'll bake ya a cake with a nail file in it.

Anyways, I hear all the cool people are doin' time these days, gettin' cool nicknames, [yours shall be "Fish"] and their noses pierced.

Ohp, too late.

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterkimmyk

Yes...we are all live people who care about you very much. You made me laugh and kept me laughing all the time until I found Missing My Bug. Then I felt weird about laughing because I could feel your hurt even in your Redneck Mommy posts...but I'm slowly getting over that. It just takes time.

Loved the cartoon.

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterAbandoned in Pasadena

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG BLOG HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterJunebugg

Sweet, you're going to do my homework for me! I have a paper due Monday on symbolism in The Great Gatsby, okay? 4 pages, double spaced.

Very sweet post. :-)

October 27, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterMrsFortune

Really? Do we, your blog buddies, truly make you feel happier?! That is SO COOL!

T, I am so glad to be one of your blogfriends. I hope one day we might even meet in person. (now that would be cool!)


October 28, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterjellyhead

Blogging is great therapy and unlike crack and therapists- it's free.

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterRain

My GPA is sinking because of my Blogging addiction.. reading and writing..

I'm in Alberta,too.

Nice to meet you!

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterPenny

LOL! At Rain

This gave me inspiration! I'm linked to you now and you didn't have to sell your soul. hehe.

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterEmmaSometimes

Ooooh, right back at you, baby. The love flows both ways.


(Two, actually. One from me, one from Baldie.)

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterHer Bad Mother

You certainly do rock. You go girl.

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterCanadian Dude

Who knew that something this simple and sometimes voyeuristic would catch on. I share your sentiments, not since the pen pals of my youth, have I felt like the world is a smaller, more managable place.

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered CommenterKat Campbell

This is why I haven't responded to the feel-the-love campaign. There are just too many blogs that I love to read. I can't pick just one.

I can't remember if I've ever commented here before, but I've been reading you for a while. You've got a great blog and I love the 50 foot woman in your header.

October 28, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterjulia

HAHAHAHAHAHA ...those chickens Rock!!! thanks for the chuckle ... I will be back to your blog...Chicken chuckle... snigger

October 29, 2006 | Unregistered Commenterwthenrest

amen, sistah! it's brought me so much more than i'd anticipated too. love that cartoon by the way--i plan to steal it;-)

October 30, 2006 | Unregistered Commentergingajoy

Great cartoon!

totally agree about the blog crack...I'm still not sure if that's a good or bad thing.

October 31, 2006 | Unregistered Commentercreative-Type Dad (Tony)

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